Is your Life filled with a sense of aliveness, freedom, clarity, power, purpose, and focus most of the time? How about the people that surround you?

If the answer is no, my next question is: How often do you say what you mean and mean what you say?

Inauthenticity is one of the greatest bleeds of energy, and most human beings are walking on the planet in a very contorted existence. Few speak clearly and authentically about what they really mean, need, and want, and then are surprised when they don’t get more of what they mean, need, or want.

Transformational leaders are highly attuned to and model authenticity. Their way of being creates space for the people they influence to be and do the same. They can also spot inauthenticity easily.

For example, a team member recently requested accommodation in our work environment and I could sense inauthenticity in the request. I got curious, and we discovered the person had a series of judgments they were trying to work around rather than managing or owning them. Without maintaining my own commitment to living authentically, I may have missed that something greater was happening in this seemingly straightforward request and the opportunity to support this team member in leveling up.

We can create such potent outcomes when we are not having to navigate the muddy waters of inauthenticity.

Living authentically requires that you understand what moves and drives you. Get honest with yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, you’ll never be honest with another human being.

If you notice that you’re being run by your judgments or critiques, ask if you are making your problem someone else’s. Notice if you’re being sneaky. Witness if you are masquerading to get what you want rather than being direct or reflecting on what’s behind your desire.

You deserve to feel a sense of aliveness, to be fully-expressed, and to live in a way that is authentic to you. And you are ultimately responsible for creating this way of being for yourself.

Authenticity attracts. Inauthenticity repels.

You will create the outcomes you deeply desire faster and with more ease by living a more authentic existence, getting more integrous around your word, and giving your energy to that which really matters.

Remember: You are a powerful creator.

Are you ready to work through what’s keeping you where you are with someone other than your therapist? Here are a few ways we can work together:

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