“Are you surrounded by people that you can lean into? Are you surrounded by people that remind you of what’s true and real, even when you forget?” – Lola Wright

I recently received shocking news that I could have never anticipated: a cease and desist letter that meant an upheaval in my business, name, and the very language I use. Since then I’ve been on a rollercoaster, but I’ve found the way to conscious acceptance and gratitude for the upcoming next chapter.

Show Notes

When I first faced the challenge of having to change my language and the title of this very podcast, I felt deep resistance. But through the power of my practice, my support system, and a little bit of good legal counsel, I’m ready to let go and create something new.

On this final episode of Find Your Fierce & Loving, I say goodbye to this wonderful iteration of this community, and turn towards the one that is already emerging. While the path here hasn’t been all smooth, I have trusted it. As I reliably invite you to consider with me, something greater is happening here. And with that always guiding my way, I am so excited to share my new podcast with you in October. This very same feed will have a new name, new language, and renewed purpose. I promise, it will have the same fiery love that we’ve always had. I can’t wait for you to join me on this next leg of our journey.

  • (00:54) – Plot twist
  • (08:42) – Saying goodbye
  • (12:46) – Gratitude

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Chicago born and built, Lola grew up in wealth and privilege, yet always sensed something was missing. She sought out aliveness and freedom in music, immersing herself in the hip hop and house music scenes of 90s Chicago. After finding herself on her own at 23, as the mother of two young children, she became determined to create a new experience.

Lola is an ordained minister with a gift for weaving together the mystical and material, she served for many years as the CEO of Bodhi Center, an organization committed to personal transformation, collective awakening, conscious activism, and community-building. 

This podcast is produced by Quinn Rose with theme music by independent producer Trey Royal.

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Transcript

Lola Wright (00:01): Something is stirring. Maybe you’ve felt it. We are reckoning with the reality of injustice and binary thinking that feeds the political machine. Humanity is in the midst of a heartbreaking and painful paradigm shift. That is a good thing. My name is Lola Wright, and this is Find Your Fierce & Loving. This podcast is intended to help you disrupt, untangle, and free your mind of personal and collective agreements, patterns and beliefs that are holding you back and weighing you down. We desperately need your fierce and loving purpose, now more than ever.I have an update for you. It’s one that I wouldn’t have predicted.

Lola Wright (00:59): It’s a plot twist, another plot twist. I’ve told you about the project that Nathan and I are working on in Logan Square. It’s not a plot twist about that. Let me catch you up. A couple of months ago, I received a letter, a cease and desist letter for a trademark infringement.

Lola Wright (01:24): A coach in another state had brought on legal counsel to pursue me for infringing on their trademark of language that I use in my brand, language I’ve been using for about a decade. And so, today is the last episode of Find Your Fierce & Loving. I can no longer use this title in any of my brand language. Now, what that means is the book I’ve been working on for the last year and a half, that’s also titled Fierce & Loving, has to be retired. I’ve spent the last couple of months working with my attorney to develop a plan. I’ve been combing through my website, and quietly and slowly as best I could, I’ve been cleaning up language that is an infringement. And so, at episode 45, I say farewell to Find Your Fierce & Loving.

Lola Wright (02:36): I want to share with you a little bit about what that experience has been like for me, but before I do that, I want you to rest assured, this digital gathering space is going nowhere. These episodes will remain available for you for some period of time, and in early October, I’m going to be releasing and launching an entirely new podcast with new content, new conversations, and a whole new light. I’m really, really excited about that. It’s been a journey to get to a place of enthusiasm, expectancy, and optimism. It was a bit of a bummer to be honest, to basically be told you can’t use these adjectives in your brand.

Lola Wright (03:26): You have to strike your style guide. You have to strike your book title. You have to strike your podcast title. It’s been a bit of a roller coaster. My immediate response was to roll over. Believe it or not, I have this part of me that really prefers to avoid conflict. It’s just not where I get my juice. So, I was probably overly accommodating, and I sort of met the experience with optimism and curiosity and felt like, “Well, okay, this must be an opportunity for something new to come forward.” And, after a few weeks of feeling that, anger started to show up, and I started to feel like, “Who does this person think they are?

Lola Wright (04:20): You don’t get to own two adjectives in the English language.” Do you know that I led a community called Bodhi Center, and there are thousands of brands that use the word Bodhi in their name? Bodhi Thai Restaurant. Bodhi Tree Bookstore. There are probably dozens of Bodhi Centers with some adaptation of that name across the country. I long released the idea that anything is original. I learned that as a musician. There is no original configuration of sound.

Lola Wright (05:00): It’s all been done before. It’s not about creating an original idea. It’s about bringing your unique expression to a played out idea. I don’t mean to be so crass. Not a played out idea but let go of the attachment that you have to be the creator of something new. I felt angry. I felt irritated.

Lola Wright (05:27): I’ve made a fair amount of investment in my body of work. I love the combination of the words fierce and loving. Worth noting, there’s also a nail polish called Fierce & Loving, and they’ve yet to knock on my door. So, there are plenty of people that are using the language that aren’t that worried. I digress. I love those two words and particularly how they embody me, and how they call you forward into a bigger, vaster, more self-expressed version of you. I oftentimes will refer to the Aramaic word, hooba, which comes from the Semitic root ha or hav.

Lola Wright (06:18): The word hooba is the word for love. The root of the word means to set on fire, and so I have often invited you to consider love beyond the mild, meek, polite, and safe platitudes that I think we are so often bought into in this culture. In my experience as someone committed to social change and human evolution, in my experience as someone who has marched for decades, in my experience as a mother of four children, in my experience as the leader of a community, in my experience as the partner of someone, in my experience as an aunt, as a sister, as a daughter, love is often more fiery than it is meek and mild. Love can be that thing that wakes you up out of your psychosis. So, the idea that love is a fiery energy is inspiring to me. I feel strongly that we need more of that quality of love on the planet.

Lola Wright (07:30): We can tend to get a little apathetic, comfortable, safe, and you know I will always invite you to set fire to the box you’ve been living in and watch it burn. In other words, love the box you’ve been living in. Now, watch it burn. It’s time to let it go and create something new. So, here I am, being called to task on the very invitation I’ve extended to you. I started out in this process feeling accommodating, trusting sort of the organization of life, the unfoldment of these circumstances and conditions.

Lola Wright (08:09): Few weeks went by, I felt fiery mad. I felt defensive. I wanted to really set her straight, and then through the power of the breath, ah, and good legal counsel, I realized there’s probably something better out there for me. There’s probably something that I can invite you into that may be even more potent than Fierce & Loving. As I said, today is the last episode of Find Your Fierce & Loving, and when it is time to complete something in your life, in my life, we oftentimes will do that unconsciously.

Lola Wright (08:58): We don’t have a lot of models or experience in ending things with a process, with full honoring, with full, like really getting complete on a thing. So, I’m ending this podcast today as known as Find Your Fierce & Loving, and what I want to say to it, not to you, but travel with me for a moment. The entity that has been Find Your Fierce & Loving has been healing for me. It’s been a space during a global pandemic that I could express myself, largely by myself, without leading a big organization or a community. I’ve been in the unknown the last 15 months, as have you, and Find Your Fierce & Loving has been a companion for me, has been a friend, and it’s time for that relationship to complete, to end. So, I just have so much gratitude for all that this space has given me over the last 15 months. For the incredible team that has brought this to form. My incredible son, Trey Royal, who did the score for this intro and outro. Quinn, who is an incredible podcast editor that I get to work with in the process. Christine, who makes all kinds of order out of my world. For the number of graphic designers that work with me on bringing my work into the world. Deep, deep bow of gratitude to my writing partner, Bree. To my creative partner, Reg.

Lola Wright (10:42): I know I said I’ve done a lot of this on my own, and what I mean by that is that I’m very often sitting in my basement by myself, looking into a camera or my computer and imagining what you may be thinking while listening. But there have been lots of people that have brought this body of work together, and for that, I am deeply, deeply grateful. And so, all of those people are on the ride with me. They are joining me in the next iteration. I need a few weeks to take a breath and reorganize the launch for my next podcast, which I can’t yet tell you the name of. But, I’ve come to a place of peace, and it really is through trusting my internal process, believing very deeply in a kind of cosmic order that goes beyond my attachments of how life should unfold. You and I have sort of a finite capacity to understand, and the more we can become acquainted with and comfortable in, and surrendered to the mystery of life, the more easeful and graceful our experience may be. 

Lola Wright (12:04): You want to be more alive. You want to unleash your inherent love and goodness, liberate yourself, and free humanity from the oppressive systems and structures we have created. We are here to support you in finding your fierce and loving life. Join us in Our Circle. This is an affirming and radical space that will gather weekly, on-demand or live, whatever works best for your life. For more information on how you can engage in Our Circle, visit lolawright.com/our-circle. I’d love to have you with us.

Lola Wright (12:46): First, I rolled over. Second, I got angry and defensive. And third, I found myself in a deeply trusting and surrendered state. And, I would say perhaps fourth, I’m really excited about where things are headed. It’s not an accident or a coincidence that the plot twist, known as this new physical space in Chicago’s Logan Square neighborhood, is coinciding with the need to release the title of this digital gathering space. It has enabled Nathan and me to come together and dream, imagine, vision, listen, and call forward something new. So, I wonder what in your life may be ready to be released, let go of, laid down. Can you grant yourself grace to move through that process and have a range of experiences? That is certainly my practice. Give myself full permission to have my anger, my sadness, my joy, my fear.

Lola Wright (13:55): That can coexist. In fact, when I give myself permission to have the full range of my experience, all of it can be completed with integrity. So, I bow deeply to Find Your Fierce & Loving. I give great thanks for the year and a half that I spent writing the book, Fierce & Loving that the world will never read, and I trust that it really was in service of my own practice, that something greater is happening here, that I’m being called into a new light, if you will, a new body of work, a new expression of me in this physical form. So, I hope that you give yourself the gift of listening to the last 45 episodes of this podcast. There’s so much rich material, so much gratitude for Bishop Carlton Pearson, Bishop Yvette Flunder, Jim Dethmer, Mark Anthony Lord, Rabbi Lizzi, Xavier Ramey, Anita Kopacz, Christian de la Huerta, Eric Williams, Gaylon McDowell, Dr. Janet Taylor. Gosh, I mean, I’m just thinking back, and it has been an incredible group of human beings that have granted me the privilege of sitting down and hearing what it was like, what it continues to be like, for them to find their fierce and loving expression.

Lola Wright (15:34): I guess as we close the space in this way, in a couple weeks, I’m going to use this same channel to roll out a whole new body of work, a whole new podcast, and I hope you’ll hang with me in that process. But, I want to thank those people. I want to thank the guests that I’ve had on this podcast because it was a really uncertain time for all of us, and to be able to connect with people that have been mentors, friends, allies, my own learning partners, the ones who have spoken life into me and reminded me of what’s possible even when I forget, the people that I feel most seen and known by oftentimes. I think about some of the names of people that I now call good friends, that have been guests on this podcast, and there was a time where they were people that I just looked upon with admiration, respect, deep reverence and honor. And so, to know that I am surrounded by human beings that are brilliant creators, extraordinary thought leaders, loving provocateurs, like my friend the Reverend Dr. Derrick Wells. Oh my goodness, so many people have graced this space, and I imagine they will come to the physical space when it’s open more frequently. And, I imagine they will revisit us in this digital gathering, but are you surrounded by people that you can lean into? Are you surrounded by people that remind you of what’s true and real even when you forget?

Lola Wright (17:22): Have you curated a life of loving friends and partners? All that we’re experiencing in the human condition is a lot. It’s a lot to move through. It’s a lot to move through a global pandemic. It’s a lot to move through a reconciliation of racial injustice or even to just begin the conversation for money.

Lola Wright (17:49): It’s a lot to live through the tension of economic disparity. It’s a lot to live through the pace at which this life moves these days. It’s a lot to live through such a polarizing political climate. It’s a lot to live through righteousness that has a strong hold on the mind right now. It’s a lot to live through all of the opinions that we can so deeply find ourselves attached to.

Lola Wright (18:22): It’s a lot, and so the power of spending time in conversation, in communion, in reflection, in connection with human beings that pull you forward, raise you up, lift you is essential. We are not designed to do this alone. We are not designed to struggle in silence. We are designed to lean on one another. So, you need to know that the people you have in your corner can hold you in a way that works for you. So, I just thank you. Thank you for being among the listeners that have traveled this journey over the last 15 months with me.

Lola Wright (19:12): I think that’s right. Maybe it hasn’t even been that long. Maybe it’s nine months. I mean, it’s 45 episodes you’ve been with me, and I can’t see you. I don’t know when you’re hearing something, and you’re like, “Oh, yes, thank you for knowing me.” But often, I get messages via social media and via email, and it makes a huge difference.

Lola Wright (19:34): I love hearing from you. I love knowing how the space is impacting you, growing you, expanding you. Thank you for being on this journey with me. Thank you for holding space for me to discover who I am in a post Bodhi reality. That place was a part of my life for 15, almost 16 years.

Lola Wright (19:55): I was a community member there for eight years before I ever joined the staff, and to then have spent seven years in leadership there. It was a huge loss. It was a great departure. It was heartbreaking, and to have this space to gather with you, to imagine my new work in the world, even though I left by choice, even though I said it was time to close that chapter of the book. Again, this is our practice, to hold the range of the human experience, to be able to hold our heartbreak and our joy, to be able to hold our anger and our creativity. You are not this like fragile, like non-dimensional being.

Lola Wright (20:49): You’re a multi-dimensional being that’s having a range of experiences. So, thank you for being willing to hold all of me over the last year. Thank you for listening. Thank you for reaching out. Thank you for telling me how much the space matters to you. And, thank you for being on the journey with me. I have some exciting announcements that are going to come in early October. I hope that you will be on this next leg of the journey with me, and if you’re in Chicago, I hope that you’ll be able to see me in form soon. Spend the next few weeks while we are on hiatus, listening back to the brilliance that came through this title of a podcast.

Lola Wright (21:35): Find Your Fierce & Loving has been a beautiful space, and I know that we will carry forward all that worked, and we will refine all that was ready to be reworked. And, something new is happening. Something greater is always at work. Thank you for joining me on the Find Your Fierce & Loving journey. I hope you spend the next few weeks listening to the last 45 episodes of extraordinary conversations and reflections, and I hope that you’ll join me when I roll out the new podcast that you can find right here, same channel, same space, just a new title and a new look and feel that has been thoroughly vetted and is not susceptible to trademark infringement. I love you.

Lola Wright (22:29): So many blessings. I can’t wait to reconnect with you in a few weeks, and until then, remember, something may want to be laid down, such that you create space for the new to emerge. Trust that. You are evolving, growing, expanding. Life is not intended to stay the same. Have fun with it.

Lola Wright (22:54): I’ll talk to you soon. If you enjoyed this show and would like to receive new episodes as they’re published, subscribe wherever you get your podcasts, and consider leaving a review in Apple Podcasts. Your review helps others find this show. You can follow me at Lola P. Wright on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter, and learn more about my work at lolawright.com. This episode was produced by Quinn Rose with theme music from independent music producer, Trey Royal. And then, through the power of the breath, ah, and good legal counsel, I realized there’s probably something better out there for me.

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