In a world that appears to be unraveling, one of the most profound truths we can embrace is this: we are connected. Relationships, human connection, and community are necessary for growth. We do not evolve and expand in isolation.
This is not just an abstract concept; operating from connection is a practice that can guide our daily lives, shaping our relationships, our communities, and ultimately, our planet.
The Practice of Connection
One of the great invitations of our time is to reacquaint ourselves with the value of interconnectivity. Nothing happens in isolation, and no one truly wins unless we all win. Relationships are at the heart of this reality, offering us opportunities to recognize and reinforce our shared humanity.
So what does this look like in everyday life? How do we cultivate meaningful connections and navigate the inevitable challenges that come with them?
Embracing Discomfort in Relationships
True connection requires leaning into the discomfort that naturally arises in relationships. Difficulty does not necessarily mean things are off course—tension is a great informant. We learn through discomfort, and it can always serve our evolution. Every relationship holds value, even if it doesn’t fit into our lives in all the ways we might desire.
It becomes easier to embrace discomfort when you remember that fear is an inevitable part of the human experience. When we are triggered—whether it be by an individual, a group of human beings, an organization or entity, or even a philosophy—we are running with a story of separation based on the false belief that we are opposing forces rather than interconnected beings. This is because when we feel isolated or uncertain, our instinct is to control our environment, seeking comfort in perceived order.
We can overcome this reaction by learning to be with fear, breathe with fear, and create space for it to come and go. Creating space for fear allows us to release the grip of control and practice being in relationship with one another—even when things aren’t going as we wish. This requires showing up with intentionality, commitment, and openness to growth.
Reflection Prompts:
- Where in your life do you struggle most often with feeling disconnected or opposed to others?
- Think of a relationship that feels easy. What do you appreciate about it?
- Think of a challenging relationship. What makes it difficult, and what do you truly want from it?
Clarity and Intention: The Foundation of Fulfilling Relationships
If we want fulfilling relationships, we must articulate what we want. We create our worlds through language, and clarity brings power. Identifying our desires, whether it be to feel valued, to be included, or to experience deeper connection, allows us to create relationships that align with our authentic selves.
Reflection Prompt: What are the qualities of connection you most deeply desire? Often, identifying what we’re not getting can help clarify what we truly want.
Honoring Our Whole Selves
At the core of all our relationships is the truth that we are whole and holy. Too often, we spend time critiquing ourselves rather than embracing our strengths and unique qualities. Imagine the difference it would make if we invested that energy into appreciating our own extraordinary nature.
Even when we make mistakes, we can choose to see them as learning experiences rather than failures. Every challenge, every conflict, is an opportunity for growth.
Amplify Appreciation
In times of uncertainty or discord, appreciation is a powerful tool for shifting energy. This doesn’t mean ignoring grievances or bypassing challenges. Rather, it means finding opportunities—both big and small—to recognize and express gratitude for those in our lives.
By amplifying appreciation, we can transform our relationships and, in turn, our experience of the world.
Invitation: How can you find meaningful opportunities to appreciate the people in your life today?
The Call to Uplevel
We are being called to uplevel our approach to relationships. The macro narrative of division and separation is no longer serving us. While it’s easy to focus on what divides us, the truth remains: we are extraordinarily connected.
Even when we disagree—especially when we disagree—we have a responsibility to remember our connection and find ways to bridge the gaps between us.
Show up for your relationships like your life depends on it, because in many ways, it does.
Hungry for more on this topic? Get the recording of the Making Sense of the Moment Community Practice held on November 19, 2024, where we explored and cultivated a deeper sense of gratitude for and connection with all human beings. Practice with us now.
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